If America really valued mothers, we wouldn’t treat them like this – Updated by Ezra Klein on May 10, 2015

Last Mother’s Day, a video from Cardstore.com went viral. In it, the company pretended to recruit for a seemingly impossible job. They told applicants that the job requires you to stand all day and put in 135 hours a week — or more. It means you have to work nights and weekends. There’s no time off, and the hours increase around Thanksgiving, Christmas and other holidays. The position requires skill in finance, medicine and food preparation. It entails intense physical labor and a total collapse in your personal life. Oh, and it pays absolutely nothing.

They called the job director of operations, but its real title, of course, is mom.

Cardstore.com sent the video out into the world video with the hashtag #WorldsToughestJob. But here’s the thing about the world’s toughest job: a lot of the people doing it also hold another job, or even a few other jobs. More than two-thirds of mothers hold jobs outside the home, and mothers are the primary earners in 40 percent of families. But in America, public policy makes balancing those jobs a lot harder than it has to be.

America is, for instance, one of the only countries in the world that doesn’t guarantee paid maternity leave. This map from UCLA’s World Policy Analysis Center tells the tale well: our maternal leave policies make us look more like Papua New Guinea than, say, any country in Western Europe:



Of course, it would be easier for mothers to balance work inside and outside the home if fathers could spend more time parenting. But public policy is even less friendly to that prospect:



Sweden is an example of what it looks like when a country really believes that being a parent is a difficult and important job that needs to be supported by public policy. They guarantee parents 480 paid days per child. Those days can be allocated as the parents see fit until the child is eight years old. In order to encourage fathers to take on more parenting responsibilities, 60 of those days are specifically given to the father.

The United States, by contrast, is an example of what it look like when a country merely pays lip service to the importance of parents. While a handful of states, like California, offer modest paid maternal leave, there’s no federal guarantee of either paid maternal or paternal leave. We make mothers choose between spending a month with their newborn child or keeping a roof over their child’s head. That’s not how it looks in countries that value the work mothers do.

The US doesn’t even ensure that parents get leave that they can use for child care. For instance, a lot of parents (sadly) use vacation days when they need a day off to care for a sick child. But in the US — unlike in every other developed nation — there is no guarantee of paid vacation days:


Center for Economic and Policy Research

Nor, of course, is there a guarantee of paid sick days. The Center for Economic and Policy Research looked at guaranteed paid leave policies for workers who got sick with a 5-day flu and a 50-day cancer treatment. The distinction was meaningless in the US, though, as both situations presented the same answer: no guarantee of paid time off at all.

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Clint Smith: How to raise a black son in America – Ted Talk Filmed March 2015 at TED2015

As kids, we all get advice from parents and teachers that seems strange, even confusing. This was crystallized one night for a young Clint Smith, who was playing with water guns in a dark parking lot with his white friends. In a heartfelt piece, the poet paints the scene of his father’s furious and fearful response.

‘Chilling out’ at an egg freezing party – By Regan Morris BBC News, Los Angeles 16 March 2015 Last updated at 19:44 ET

The timing of having a child has always been complicated for working women, but egg freezing parties hope to capture their attention by promoting advances in technology alongside cocktails and mingling.

EggBanxx at Crosby Hotel in September

Drinks, hors d’oeuvres and learning about egg vitrification

This swanky cocktail party at the Beverly Wilshire is packed with women. It’s the very hotel where Julia Roberts’ Pretty Woman told Richard Gere’s character she wouldn’t settle for being a mistress – that she wanted the fairy tale.

While it’s no longer a Hollywood film set, the young women here also want it all – and they are refusing to settle when it comes to their fertility.

These women are at a “Let’s Chill” cocktail party to learn about egg freezing, this one sponsored by a firm that provides the service.

Aside from cocktails and some fancy hors d’oeuvres, the party includes a presentation from a company representative, personal testimony from women who’ve frozen their eggs, a panel with top fertility doctors, as well a question and answer session and time to mingle.

“It’s pretty casual. We hope it’s fun and more laid back than being in a waiting room,” says Jay Palumbo, the vice president of patient care at EggBanxx, which is hosting the party.

EggBanxx at Harvard Club in October

Drinks, hors d’oeuvres and learning about egg vitrification

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Case Sparks Debate About Teen Decision Making in Health – By Kimberly Leonard Jan. 22, 2015 | 12:01 a.m. EST

A Connecticut teen is being given chemotherapy against her will.

Some doctors say the decision is made in the best interest of the patient, and not based on maturity.

Some doctors say the decision is made in the best interest of the patient, and not based on maturity.

Some doctors say the decision is made in the best interest of the patient, and not based on maturity.

Only months before turning 18, a Connecticut girl has been told by her state’s supreme court that she must undergo chemotherapy against her wishes in a case that has drawn national headlines and raised questions about what rights minors truly have over their bodies.

The teen, identified in court papers only as “Cassandra C.,” was removed from her home in December after she missed medical appointments for Hodgkin’s lymphoma, or cancer of the lymph system. The Leukemia and Lymphoma Society says the disease is highly curable, with an 85 percent chance of survival. Doctors proposed a six-month chemotherapy course. Without it, she is likely to die in two years.

But Cassandra balked at the treatment and said she didn’t want to go through with it. Social services became involved and, after an emergency legal appeal, the state’s high court said on Jan. 8 the teen could be forced to receive the therapy.

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Banning club drugs hasn’t made users safer A grieving mom hopes her plan will – by Mona Lalwani on October 3, 2014 

Dede Goldsmith was asleep in a Kentucky hotel room, on the last night of a three-week trip with her husband, when her phone rang. It was 2:15 a.m. “I’m really sorry, Mrs. Goldsmith,” a voice on the other end said. “Shelley has been taken to the hospital.”

Shelley was her 19-year-old daughter. A student at the University of Virginia, she had taken a trip with her friends to see Dada Life, a Swedish electro-house duo, at a Washington, DC, club. At the concert, Shelley wasn’t feeling well. She went to the bar for water. “Call 911,” she said, before she collapsed.

“Her friend kept saying ‘sorry,’ like she was already gone,” Goldsmith said later of the phone call. The friend told her that Shelley had taken Molly that night.

“Who’s Molly?” Goldsmith asked.

Earlier that evening, August 30, 2013, Shelley had boarded a rented party bus, complete with couches and booming electronic dance music, to make the 120-mile trip from Charlottesville, Virginia, to the concert. Thirty-four University of Virginia students were on board. Almost everyone took a hit of Molly.

Molly is a powdered psychoactive that is supposed to be the purest, uncut form of the drug MDMA, often called ecstasy when it is in pill form. The high brings on a sense of euphoria and empathy. It stimulates the senses in a way that complements the immersive spectacle of an electronic dance music show.

“My heart says: if you’re gonna try Molly, you better make sure you know what you’re taking”“Essentially everyone on that bus was on the drug,” said Kate, one of the students on the bus. (“Kate” asked not to be identified by name.) “We got to the concert and everyone was having an amazing time.”

Shelley had taken some Molly on the bus, and then another hit at the club. When she collapsed, most of her friends assumed she had passed out from dehydration. They headed back home on the bus thinking she would be fine. Her boyfriend and a close friend stayed back, going with Shelley by ambulance to Providence Hospital, where doctors attempted to revive her.